It is possible that you can’t get your ex back because you really don’t want to. It might sound harsh, as the truth can, but we often do things that cause us our own dissatisfaction and pain because we believe it is the lesser of the two possible painful scenarios. We often forget to look at the possible positive outcome of extending ourselves. Whether it’s to get ex back or find someone new, self awareness can go a long way.
It is part of the human condition to cause one’s own painful reality rather than become victim to it via someone else’s control. This is not to say that it is human nature, but a condition. One that has been taught through generations of others with the human condition. We threw out the love of our life to make sure that we were not the one that was dumped. Sounds familiar?
We scour the shelves looking for a fat loss solution when we are still clutching a bag of potato chips in our hand. We pretend we want to lose weight, but we also know that the weight keeps the guys away, and we can then remain in control. We don’t want to be a joke or experiment, and we certainly don’t want money riding on our behaviors.
All of the beauty cosmetics in the world can not hide your ugly side from the world, since that is the one that you put out there. By being ugly, cruel, and even mean you are sure that you will never again have to give into pain in order to be briefly loved. You have lost your faith in the human race.
Perhaps if we continue to tell ourselves that we have failed, are worthless, and are really never going to amount to anything we will be so uncomfortable in our own skin that we will have to make changes and become better people. Maybe if we keep drilling our own negative thoughts into our head we will somehow learn to grow from the experience.
It would be wonderful if we could all put down our weapons of choice and start to realize that there are other factors in play here. We do cause our own pain to make sure that, at the very least, we get to be in control of it. We don’t ask for help and we never look back.
We work very hard at developing these ideas and then coming up with behaviors that seem to work, almost. We still feel pain and loneliness and anger but we don’t allow someone in to hear about it. We develop the strong sense that our own love for ourselves is somehow wrong and indecent when in fact it is the greatest gift you can offer to your own heart.
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